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How to Get Your Man to Marry You
by Mika Lo
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Overview
Marriage is often a polarizing topic whose mere mention sends some into a blissful state, while making others retreat for the nearest exit. If you're a woman who's been bitten by the love bug, waiting for a proposal from your man can seem unbearable. Although there's no sure-fire way to get your boyfriend to propose to you, some methods work better than others. Diversify your approach to increase your chances of hearing the proposal you've always wanted.
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Step 1
Show your man that he can't live without you. Establish your one-of-a-kind status on a consistent basis, as other women do exist. Strive to be his loyal friend and passionate romantic interest. Maintain that your companionship is "irreplaceable" and easily defeats any outside interference. Demonstrate this by allowing him to spend time with friends, without complaints or excessive questioning.
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Step 2
Express your desire to share in his dreams. Engage in regular dialogue about your collective future. Listen intently as he expresses his goals. Interject with ways that you'll help him obtain his dreams and how you two can work together for common success. Don't get frustrated if his initial plans don't include you, as plans can change with the proper stimuli.
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Step 3
Avoid desperate behavior at all cost. Refrain from nagging him to propose or begging him to marry you. Although you may desire to get married soon, forcing a marriage proposal can build resentment in your relationship. This aggressive behavior can also make your man feel trapped and even lead to a breakup. Other no-no's include dropping less-than-subtle hints in front of friends or giving ultimatums.
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Step 4
Respect his opinions about marriage. Monitor your man's reaction when marriage is brought up, as this can indicate underlying hurt and frustration. Take his prior relationships and childhood into consideration, as bad experiences often affect attitudes and behaviors. For example, if his parents went through a horrible divorce, he may feel leery of marriage.
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Step 5
Create pleasant bonds with his friends and family members. Although making nice with his inner circle can't guarantee a quick proposal, it can give you an advantage. For example, nothing compares to the blessing of his mother or best friend. Participate in group events and family functions to demonstrate your desire to remain with him for the long haul. Consider hosting holiday dinners and parties to create constructive relationships.
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- Ignore advice from well-meaning but relationship-challenged friends.
- Ignore advice from well-meaning but relationship-challenged friends.
- Avoid bombarding your man with marriage talk. This creates a hostile atmosphere and decreases your chances to show him why he should marry you.
Don't base your decision to get married on the length of time you've been together.
- Avoid bombarding your man with marriage talk. This creates a hostile atmosphere and decreases your chances to show him why he should marry you.
- Don't base your decision to get married on the length of time you've been together.
