How to discipline a child that bites

by Lisa Parris

Overview

At one time or another, most kids will take a bite out of someone else. Whether the behavior stems from fear or frustration or simple curiosity, it is painful for the victim and distressing for caregivers, as they may not know how to respond. While biting is common and rarely causes serious physical injury, it is aggressive and destructive. Discipline children who bite in a way that discourages future incidents and encourages alternative, healthy behavior.

Step 1

Respond immediately. Position yourself so you are at eye level with the child. Place your hands on his shoulder and turn him toward you. Use an unsympathetic, stern voice and serious expression to say, "No! We do not bite people. Biting hurts."
Step 2

Turn away from the biter, refusing to reward bad behavior by paying more attention to her, and focus on the victim. Overreact to the amount of physical damage the bite has caused, or lay on the sympathy for the wounded party.
Step 3

Watch the child closely for several weeks after the incident to be certain he has learned not to bite. If you see the biter becoming upset or angry, encourage the child to express her emotions, and let her know it is OK to ask for help.
Step 4

Treat repeat biting incidents with firm "No!" and a time out. Keep the biter in time out for one minute for each year of his age. Make sure the time out chair is in a boring location, well away from the television or toys. If the time out fails to work, take a favorite possession away for one day.
Step 5

Look for chances to use positive reinforcement. When you see the child responding to upsetting situations in a more appropriate manner, offer a reward for good behavior. Give out loads of praise and encouragement for displays of kindness, patience and sharing.

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No matter how angry you get, never bite a child to show them how much it hurts or wash her mouth out with soap as a form of punishment.
No matter how angry you get, never bite a child to show them how much it hurts or wash her mouth out with soap as a form of punishment.

Overview