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How to Cope With a Family Member With a Drug Addiction
by Mika Lo
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Overview
Drug usage can trigger familial instability, as the craving for drugs can cloud judgment and place a strain on existing relationships. Although you may find it difficult to accept the truth about a family member's drug usage, failing to do so can lead to increased turmoil. Learn to cope with your family member's drug addiction without enabling, making light of or ignoring his troubles.
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Step 1
Accept the reality of the situation. Examine the physical and emotional symptoms related to drug usage to better understand your loved one's mind-set. Avoid thinking that a drug addict can just "snap out of it" anytime she decides to do so. Failing to acknowledge a loved one's true problems can hinder recovery and even saddle you with more stress.
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Step 2
Provide emotional support without becoming an obstacle. Recognize the difference between being supportive and being a doormat. Use constructive means to express your ongoing support instead of allowing guilt to affect your actions adversely. Avoid making excuses for your loved one's negative behaviors, providing him with drugs or turning a blind eye to his drug usage. Utilize positive means of encouragement, which include providing uplifting conversation or alternative activities.
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Step 3
Find positive emotional outlets to combat stress. Suitable activities include journaling, exercising or playing music. Avoid indulging in destructive behaviors, which will only complicate existing problems. Form tight bonds with other family members to keep them from feeling isolated. This is especially important if children are involved, as they may find it difficult to express their feelings. Consider joining a support group such as Narcotics Anonymous, as conversing with others in your same situation can be therapeutic.
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Step 4
Develop a thick skin when dealing with your loved one. Understand that she one may be in denial about her drug addiction. She may even resent you for trying to help her with an admitted problem. Refrain from meeting resistance with explosive anger, which can discourage your family member from confiding in you.
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Step 5
Facilitate the recovery process. While you can't "make" someone quit using drugs, you can provide the constructive support needed to increase the likelihood of recovery. Set firm boundaries to ensure your loved one doesn't take advantage of your kindness. This includes requiring a valid reason for any money you lend him money and refusing to drop him off at known drug hangouts. Assist with goal setting and accomplishment to foster self-esteem and independence.
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- Suggesting that your family member attend structured meetings can facilitate the recovery process.
- Suggesting that your family member attend structured meetings can facilitate the recovery process.
- You may find it necessary to safeguard the rest of your family against destructive behavior. Don't feel guilty for acting in your family's best interest.
- You may find it necessary to safeguard the rest of your family against destructive behavior. Don't feel guilty for acting in your family's best interest.
